Seasons, Reasons, Lifetimes

Halloween is just around the corner. The churches have put up pumpkin patches for the children to play in and be photographed in, dark of evening arrives by late afternoon, and I reach for a jacket on my way out the door. Frost on the grass crunches underfoot in the morning and at night windows are lit with wickedly grinning jack'o'lanterns. It's a time for Indian corn to be hung on front doors, a time for harvesting and planning for the winter, a time for preparation. For me, it's always been a time to reflect on the closed doors in my life and it seemed appropriate to me that a dear friend sent me the following and I opened it just as it turned full dark.


People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.


Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.


LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.